Why couldn't western society Still overcome phobia in the 21st century??(read my answer first)?

Because gays have created a subculture and bars for themselves and parades and subcultures, this has resulted with gays distinguishing and in some cases segregating themselves from the society and therefore, the society just took what gays reflected to the outside: a separate cultural group... why not solely being the person you are but only liking males rather than females. why are there "gay icons" and all that BullShi.t... its the mistake of the gay people...